Anxiety is a common but often misunderstood condition. People often think that anxiety means they can’t have sex, but that isn’t true. In fact, many people who struggle with anxiety find it easier to cope when they’re having sex because it allows them to take their mind off their worries for a little while. However, if your partner becomes anxious around you during sex and this starts interfering with their ability to enjoy themselves at all (both physically and emotionally), then there are some things you can do about it:

Anxiety Can Present In A Lot Of Different Ways

Anxiety can present in a lot of different ways. It may be situational, circumstantial or generalized. Anxiety can be sexual, social or generalized. It may feel like you’re out of control and overwhelmed with fear or dread.

Anxiety can also show up as physical symptoms such as heart palpitations, shortness of breath and sweating (called “panic attacks”).

If you have anxiety about sex because you are worried that what you are doing is wrong for your partner(s), then it is important to talk about this issue openly with them so they get an idea of how much pressure there is on yourself to perform well sexually in order for them not to feel inadequate during intimacy sessions which can lead into an unhealthy relationship dynamic where both parties end up feeling stressed out over the other person’s performance level

Figure Out What’s Causing Your Anxiety

  • Figure out what’s causing your anxiety.
  • Think about the triggers that cause you to feel anxious, and then figure out how to change them. For example, if you’re worried about what other people think of your body or your sexual performance and it causes feelings of anxiety in bed, try thinking about how others might be perceiving those things differently than how they really are.
  • Look at the situation from multiple angles: Is there a way for both partners involved (or even just one) to help themselves? Can each person make small changes based on their own needs? And if the answer is no—if neither partner can take responsibility for their own actions—then maybe there’s something else going on here that needs addressing first before moving forward with sex again…

Try To Remember That Your Partner Isn’t Your Enemy

One of the most important things to remember is that your partner isn’t your enemy. Your partner loves you, and wants to help you through this. They may not know what they can do or say to make this better, but they’re trying their best!

If we look at our relationships from a different perspective, it’s easy to see how anxiety can ruin sex life: two people who aren’t communicating well with each other will likely have issues in other areas of their lives as well (and vice versa). So if you’re having trouble getting over your anxieties about sex—and maybe even feeling like there’s something wrong with how much pleasure-seeking people enjoy themselves—the solution could lie in realizing that these feelings aren’t coming from within yourself; instead, they’re coming from outside sources like society or family members who don’t understand what makes us tick behind closed doors (or even just outside doors).

Check In With What You Want From Sex

You can’t change your partner’s behaviors, but you can work to find out what they want from sex.

  • Check in with yourself about what you want from sex. Figure out what is important to you and make sure that is part of the equation when making decisions about having sex with your partner.
  • Ask them if they know their own needs and wants as well—if not, ask! Don’t assume anything about what’s going on between the two of you (i.e., “it must be me,” or “you’re just a tease”). It’s important for both partners’ self-esteem if we feel good about ourselves before others do; this means knowing ourselves enough not only so we feel confident but also so others can tell us things like “I love how much fun we’re having together!” or “You look really cute today.”

Talk To Someone Who Can Help You Work Through It

Talk to someone who can help you work through it.

  • Talk with a therapist. Even if you don’t want to go into depth about your anxiety, having someone who’s trained in working with sexual disorders and dysfunctions will make you feel more comfortable talking about the issue. They’ll be able to provide support and guidance as well as possible solutions for how best to manage your condition—and they’ll be able to offer insight into how their own experiences may have shaped their approach over time (whether positive or negative).
  • Talk with friends or family members if they’re available: It may seem counterintuitive at first glance, but sometimes talking things out can actually make them better! If there’s one thing that people tend not do very often in today’s society (especially those who suffer from mental health issues), it’s confide in others about what they’re going through; however, when we do open up our hearts enough so that others can see inside of us without judging us harshly based on surface reactions (which should never happen anyway), then there comes an opportunity for healing through communication rather than isolationism.”

Try Writing It Down

When you’re ready to start writing down your thoughts, emotions, and experiences, it’s important to be honest. You might find that some of the things that make you anxious are things that have happened in the past or things happening now. If this is true for you, write them down anyway so they can be dealt with later on when they aren’t as intense as they were during the moment when you were experiencing them.

Writing also helps organize your thoughts better than talking about them verbally does—and if there’s one thing we know about anxiety it’s that trying not to think about something only makes us more aware of its presence! Writing down what causes anxiety can help us figure out how best to deal with those feelings going forward (or at least until we’ve figured out how not having sex has impacted our relationship).

Get To Know Your Body And What Makes You Feel Good

There is a great deal of research that shows that knowing what makes you feel good can help with anxiety. For example, if you’re feeling anxious about your body image and how it affects sex, then knowing what makes you feel good might be helpful in calming down.

The same goes for other triggers like fear of intimacy or fear of rejection from others. Knowing how these things make us feel can help us relax and understand why they are so important to us—and therefore less likely to affect our relationship with ourselves or others in negative ways.

Do Breathwork And Relaxation Exercises

Breathing exercises and relaxation techniques can be a great way to reduce anxiety. When you feel stressed, it’s natural for your body to tense up as a result. This can cause tension in other areas of the body, which will make it difficult for you to relax. However, breathing exercises and relaxation techniques help you to remain calm even when faced with stressful situations or emotions like anxiety or anger.

Breathing exercises help to keep your mind focused on something else while simultaneously relaxing your muscles so that they don’t stiffen up when faced with stressors such as being nervous about an upcoming event or being around someone who makes them anxious (like family members). Relaxation techniques may include yoga poses that are designed specifically for reducing anxiety without making people feel too sore afterward; these types of activities should not be performed if there is any risk of injury due to arthritis joints needing extra support

Experiment With Self-Pleasure And/Or Masturbation

Masturbation is a great way to learn what you like and how to get in the mood. If you’re having trouble reaching orgasm, try different positions or techniques. Masturbation can also help relax your body and mind so that you feel more open for sex later on.

If self-pleasure isn’t working out for you yet, consider trying it with someone else who has already explored these methods (or if this isn’t an option, at least take some time alone with yourself). This will help relieve some of the pressure off during sex so that when things get hot and heavy again—and they will since arousal tends not only affect our bodies but also our minds—we’ll be able to focus all of our attention on each other rather than ourselves!

Make A Plan For When You Become Anxious During Sex

  • Have a plan for when you become anxious during sex, such as having a conversation with your partner beforehand or bringing up the topic during foreplay.
  • Have a plan for when you are feeling anxious about having sex, such as making sure that there are no distractions in the room or planning ahead of time how much time it will take before things get hot and heavy.
  • Make sure that if you feel anxious about sex, whether it’s because of nerves or another underlying issue (like relationship problems), then these feelings can be dealt with before they become too overwhelming and ruin everything else in your life!

There are many ways to work through anxiety and it doesn’t mean you can’t have a good sex life.

Anxiety can be a huge obstacle to overcome. It’s important to know that you’re not alone, as many people struggle with anxiety and its impact on their sex lives. There are tools available that can help address this issue—and there are even some ways in which anxiety can be addressed and made easier for you to have the sex life you want!


It can be difficult to deal with anxiety, but there are many ways to work through it. Remember that not everything is about your sex life and that it’s important to work on whatever is causing you stress or anxiety as well. We hope these tips help!