If you’re having trouble getting turned on by your partner, it might be because they’re not doing something right. Or maybe it’s just a temporary thing and will pass in time. But if that’s not the case, then don’t worry: there are things you can do to get back into the mood! Here are some tips for finding your lost libido:

If the idea of having sex feels like the last thing you want to do, don’t force it.

If the idea of having sex feels like the last thing you want to do, don’t force yourself. If your partner is willing and able, go ahead and have fun!

But if they aren’t, it’s okay not to have sex. You don’t need them or anyone else in order to feel good about yourself.

If a situation like this arises and one person makes an attempt at forcing themselves on another person who doesn’t want it (or vice versa), then what happens next depends on how well-loved each party involved knows themselves as individuals: whether or not each has had experience with sexual abuse; whether either party has been taught from an early age that their body belongs only to them alone; etc.—all factors which can affect someone’s ability (or lack thereof) at consenting sexually with others around them today!

Try to figure out what’s gotten in the way of your sex life.

If you’re not having sex, it’s probably not just because you don’t want to. Your libido may be fine—but there are other things that could get in the way of a good sex life.

  • Maybe you’re stressed out. Stress has been linked with decreased sexual desire and performance for men and women alike (1).
  • Maybe your partner is doing something that bothers or scares you (like cheating). This can affect how much intimacy there is between two people in a relationship, which could make them less interested in having sex as well.

Don’t be afraid to talk with your partner about what you’re feeling.

Don’t be afraid to talk with your partner about what you’re feeling.

  • Ask for help. If you’re having trouble getting in the mood, ask for support from your partner and friends. You can also seek professional help if needed—a sex therapist may be able to help boost your libido or prescribe medications that will do the trick!
  • Ask yourself what kind of stressors are affecting your sex life (like an argument with a family member who doesn’t understand why they should focus on intimacy). Sometimes there’s no reason at all; other times it might just take time before things get better again—but either way, try not to let these issues turn into bigger problems than they need to be by letting them affect everything else in life too much as well!

Identify and avoid stressors if you can.

There are a number of things that can cause stress, including work or school, relationship problems and even the weather. If you’re feeling stressed out on a regular basis and your libido isn’t where it should be, try identifying what’s bringing this negative emotion into your life—and then doing something about it!

For example: If you have an idea for an app that would help people manage their finances better (and make more money), but you don’t know how to get started with building it because there are no financial advisors in your area who can teach this difficult subject matter…that could be stressful! The best way to deal with this kind of situation is by applying the 10/20/30 rule: focus on one thing at a time until it becomes clear whether or not there’s enough interest in what could be done by others so that they’ll want to share their knowledge too; if not then move onto another project until something else comes along which seems like fun too (but still doesn’t require learning new skills).

Low libido can be frustrating but there are ways to address it.

The first thing to remember is that low libido can be frustrating, but there are ways to address it. It’s important not to beat yourself up over this or think that it’s a sign that you’re not attractive or desirable. If your partner is having trouble getting aroused, they may also feel frustrated by this—but they may also be worried about hurting your feelings by saying so. Try being supportive: “That must make me seem boring!” Or even something like “I’m sure there are things I could do better.”

If you find yourself thinking these things in response to their lack of arousal, consider why these thoughts might come up for you and try to understand where they come from (if at all). It could be as simple as feeling unsure about what kind of sex appeal works best for both parties; maybe one person feels more confident than the other when it comes time for making decisions about how things go down between them? Sometimes all we need is a little reassurance from our partners before we can relax enough ourselves!

Know that there is no one normal.

You might be feeling down about your libido because you’ve been hitting the gym and working out more than usual. Or maybe you’re feeling down because of something else going on in your life, like a bad breakup or another serious health issue.

The point is that there is no one normal for everyone, which means there’s no shame in feeling what you’re feeling. Your body is incredible and it does its best to keep us safe and healthy even when we’re not doing so well emotionally or physically—so don’t beat yourself up over this!

Take a break from sex if you need it.

If you’re not feeling it, take a break.

If you’re feeling stressed, take a break.

If you’re feeling tired and rundown, take a break.

If your body is giving out on you or if your mind is filled with negative thoughts about yourself and your looks (or lack thereof), then it’s time to get off the couch for some fresh air and sunshine!

Make sure you’re getting enough sleep.

You need to get a good night’s sleep.

Sleep is one of the most important things that you can do if you want to have better sex and more energy throughout your day. Sleep is also essential for keeping a healthy body and mind, so it’s important that everyone gets enough rest each night. If you don’t get enough sleep, then there will be less time in which to do fun activities with friends or family members during the day!

If I sound like this paragraph was just written by someone whose job involves telling people about how much they need sleep (and doesn’t), then I apologize for being misleading—but this isn’t really about me! It really does matter whether or not we’re getting enough rest each day; after all: “A lack of restful nights can cause health problems like obesity or diabetes.”

Think about how to take pressure off of yourself.

  • Take a break from sex.
  • Take a break from your partner.
  • Take a break from your job, house and car—and even the TV!

Use masturbation for stress relief, not sexual fulfillment.

Masturbation is a great way to relieve stress, but it’s not a replacement for sex. You can still get your needs met in other ways, and masturbation should be used as an important part of your overall health and well-being.

Masturbation can also help with sleep problems, anxiety and depression—and it has been linked to better focus during the day (so you can handle all those emails).

Practice self-care as a priority.

As you work to regain your libido, it’s important to practice self-care as a priority. Here are some suggestions:

  • Take time to relax and unwind. If you’re feeling stressed or anxious, this is the perfect time for all of us—even those of us who don’t suffer from physical ailments—to take care of ourselves. Relaxing can help relieve stress and boost your immune system, helping you fight off whatever bug might be going around town right now (or maybe next week).
  • Exercise regularly if possible; even five minutes per day can make a difference in how well we feel overall when we’re feeling down on ourselves or our bodies in general.* Sleep seven hours each night; eight hours would be better but even five will do fine.* Eat healthy meals every day (this includes avoiding fast food chains); drink plenty of water throughout the day; exercise at least four times per week.* Spend quality time with friends and family members so that they don’t think less highly about themselves due their own low self-esteem issues caused by their lacklustre sex lives

If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, think about what would make you feel more connected to them again.

If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, think about what would make you feel more connected to them again. Connecting with your partner is important because it can help you feel more confident in your relationship and improve the quality of life for both of you. It may also help boost your libido and enhance overall sexual satisfaction if it’s not working out well right now.

When we’re feeling disconnected from someone else, it’s easy for us to think that our relationship just isn’t healthy enough yet (or ever) so why bother trying? But maybe there are things that need changing within yourself before they’ll change around them too—and that means taking an honest look at how much time and energy are being spent on each other versus how much time and energy are being spent on ourselves instead!

Focus on the physical aspects of your relationship that you do enjoy

Focus on the physical aspects of your relationship that you do enjoy, and try to make time for them; things like cuddling and prolonged kissing can be important parts of intimacy that don’t take long but can help reconnect you with your libido.

If you feel like sex is one thing that has been lost in your life, it’s important not to rush into anything. Take a step back from any thoughts about getting back in the sack (or bed). This means giving yourselves some space from each other—and yourself—to think about what would make things better between the two of you before jumping into anything physical again without first talking about it first.

It’s okay to not have a libido right now!

  • It’s okay to not have a libido right now!
  • It’s okay to not be interested in sex right now.
  • It’s also okay if you don’t feel ready for sex or aren’t interested in having it with your partner, even though they might be suggesting otherwise. Sometimes we just need time to get there, and sometimes we need space from our partner so that we can figure out what we want and where each other fits into our lives together (if ever). If you’ve been feeling anxious about this topic, try talking with someone who can help guide your thoughts—maybe an aunt or friend of yours has experience dealing with similar issues?


It’s okay to not have a libido right now! If you’re stressed out, it might be time to take a break from sex. And while it might feel like taking a break is the worst thing that could happen, remember that there are other ways to get your sexual needs fulfilled without having sex. If you need some tips on how best to do this without feeling guilty or embarrassed about it, check out our article on ways men can boost their libidos naturally.